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“Kerry from Birmingham asks about her husband”

January 30, 2017

My husband left me 18 months ago and I really want him back. Will he come back to me?

Russell writes…

Hi Kerry, I'm sorry to hear of your relationship break-up and can understand how it's hard to let go of hopes and dreams that were built around a relationship that currently does not exist. You have gone your separate ways but you still can't get over it. The first thing I want you to do is let go of any blame you are putting on yourself for what happened. Remember, it takes two to tango. Don't keep going over in your head what you should have done or could have done differently; what you didn't say or should have said. The past is the past and it is time to put it all behind you. It is understandable to grieve over a lost marriage but if you allow your thoughts to linger too long on how it used to be, you are preventing yourself from enjoying opportunities in the present and from seeing new possibilities. Dwelling on the past is holding you back. You've got to let go and start focusing on present circumstance. I see a happier time for you over the year ahead and I feel that booking a holiday and getting away from it all will change your perspective and you will return home with a renewed zest for life.

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